A new study who researched the effects of smacking kids showed surprising results but it depends at which ages the kids have been smacked.The study "recommends" that smacking your kids between 2 and 6 years leads to more successful youngsters and adults in the long run.
In comparison with kids who haven't been beaten or kids who have been beaten beyond the age of 12 years the previous mentioned group of kids had advantages in academic rank, volunteer work, college aspirations, hope for the future, and confidence in their ability to earn a living when they grow up.
The study reviewed 2.600 persons of whom 25% never had been smacked. The 179 teenagers were asked when they got their last smack and how often they were smacked as child.
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Read more: Children who are smacked when young are more likely to be successful, study finds - Daily Mail Online
What do you think of this NEW OUTCOME in this study?
Can you smack your kids to success or will physical punishment do more harm to the self-confidence of your kid?
I can imagine that parents who smack often their children are more difficult to satisfy, thus their sons grow thinking that they have to fulfill higher expectations in order to be accepted and loved.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, people who's always being accepted and loved for what they are, may be become less ambitious.
Personally I hate smacking.
I grew up with a neighbor always smacking her kids and I it scared the daylights in me. My mom would smack me once in a while and sometimes I would have a dream about it. My dad hit me once with a belt and never did it again and I know it's my fault so I guess I deserve that. But now that I'm a mom, I don't think I can handle hitting my kid. I always believed in talking to them first. That's my dad's technique and there's always waterworks everytime he would talk to us and I think his way worked better than what my mom did.
ReplyDeleteThe age group 2 to 6 seems to me to be the time when spanking a child for punishment has the best affect. But it should not be done too much. It should be the last resort if a child does not stop doing something. The reason why it can work as a form of punishment or "limit-setting" for that group is that barn at that age may have difficulty understanding the meaning of what you say.
ReplyDeleteThe better the verbal ability the better it may be to talk out what is right and what is wrong. After six years of age most children are able to listen to reason. Spanking after that age may cause resentment instead teaching the ground rules.
One thing that is very important when rearing children is that both parents are in agreement as to what exactly the ground rules are and do not contradict each other in front of the children. Otherwise children are quick to pit one parent against the other and no rules will be followed at all.
Best wishes
Anna
The word "smack" implies slapping to me. But I thought that the study focused on spanking. I think that spanking done properly can be very productive.
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